Infidelity

in·fi·del·i·ty (nf-dl-t)

NOUN:
pl. in·fi·del·i·ties

1. 1. Unfaithfulness to a sexual partner, especially a spouse.
   2. An act of sexual unfaithfulness.
2. Lack of fidelity or loyalty.
3. Lack of religious belief.

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Here's what people on the net has to say about infidelity:
(source: http://www.beliefnet.com/boards_mini/index.asp?boardID=2899 )

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'Infidelity destroys your relationship with your spouse, your children and crushes any self esteem you may have had left. Everything you see, do and feel has a different feel and dimension. I once thought that I learned from an affair how much more I really loved my husband, but I just was kidding myself. I know how much I love him because I have lost that love because I fulfilled my selfish urges and insecurities. I want to work to help others prevent taking the same path and to reunite couples who have suffered from. In God's name we must live by his commandments, they were written to help us, not police us.'

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'Being tempted & giving in, to the temptation, are two very different animals!! Yes, we are only human, and we all have needs that must be met. But, when you are in a marriage, putting yourself first can be a big mistake! You must truely give of yourself, and live your life for God and your spouse (the love of your life & partner in this life). Needing to experiment & explore outside of your marriage to meet YOUR needs, in a word, is SELFISH. Self fullfillment at the expense of your partners feelings will become devastating in the end. Regardless of what human nature might be, sometimes self control and SACRIFICE need to be exercised!! I know this. I have experienced the pain of guilt and of being betrayed. But, through Christ, all things are possible. Turning to him is healing our wounds. This can be true for anyone who accepts and belives!!'

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'To me, infidelity is where you violate the trust that you pledge to another-be it your spouse, God, or whoever.

The tragedy is that infidelity is born out of complacency in the marriage. We take each other for granted and don't take the initiative to "spice things up" (or at least talk). The complacency turns into boredom, and the boredom turns into a recipe for infidelity.

As a married person, I realize that infidelity in my life will be more harm than good. Plus it diminishes four people: God, and His place in my life: my wife, and her place in my life; the other woman, and her self-worth as a human being; and myself, devaluing my self-worth.

If the temptation comes by, I always ask myself "is it worth it" and the answer's always "no".'